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‘I am a second-rate human being’…girls and the self-esteem void, what parents...
I read recently that teenage girls on average check their social media accounts 50 times a day. I imagine snapchat to be like Slimer from Ghost busters (its logo is similar) every girl that it touches...
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A breast lump, abnormal cells, a much loved poorly dog and secondary school...
Six weeks ago, I went for a routine smear examination, the nurse told me she couldn’t take the smear as she could see something that needed investigating at Colposcopy, she said the referral would be...
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Would you like a better connection with your teenager? here are some of the...
I recently read a short article by Lorraine Candy declaring that you cannot be a best friend to your teenage children…my response was why would you want to be a best friend?Lorraine, who I must point...
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Is your child suffering with anxiety, read this… it’s important!
Is your child suffering with anxiety, read this… it’s important!I have received 47 emails from my daughters’ secondary school since September 22nd nearly 5 a week. I have received at least 36 text...
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Mental Health - How do we become resilient, this blog has some answers
As a PODS trained trauma therapist, I have worked with people who have experienced the worst that life has to offer in terms of family relationships and traumatic life events. These clients have...
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Verbal Intrusion – Getting on your teenager’s nerves? It's all in the timing.
Verbal Intrusion – Getting on your teenager’s nerves. Its all in the timing. We all do it, some of us reflect after the explosion and think about what was said, how it was said and if too much was...
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Parents are the new focus for teenage anxiety treatment, is it possible to...
Parents are the new focus for teenage anxiety treatment, is it possible to not feel judged?You know as an adult when you go to your mum for advice and the conversation starts off ok and you feel...
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“No, it’s fine I can manage” …self-sacrifice in motherhood, what are we...
When I speak to mothers on my resilience workshops, the general consensus is that a good woman and a good mother is offering everything to everyone at the cost of her own emotional space. What I aim to...
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‘You’re a dick, weirdo, loser’…name calling between siblings, the damage...
“You’re an idiot, no wonder you’ve not got any mates”“You’re a weirdo”‘Enough’ I stated loudly. I ask my daughter who is the older one to go and sit in her room to let the tension die down. This sort...
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Calling all Year 6 parents…buckle up your emotional seatbelts and then adjust...
It’s difficult for both parent and child when leaving the safety of primary school. There are so many aspects of loss and excitement that it is difficult to know how to feel what emotion and when. The...
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Argumentative child/teenager…Here’s how to lessen that. (3 minute read)
First of all, don’t argue with them, why? because you will make them good at arguing! Practice makes perfect. In CBT they have a phrase ‘what fires together, wires together’ it sort of explains how...
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Do you have a boy who loves YouTube...read this (3 minute read)
With over 300 videos uploaded every minute to YouTube, it has evolved into must see viewing for the pre-teen generation. Parents are left reeling from the fall outs due to excessive consumption from...
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This blog may help you gain the deep and full sleep you've been missing (3...
A month ago, I wasn’t sleeping well, I have had bouts of this for the last 5 years. I can pin point why, it is usually when I feel overwhelm in terms of emotional stressors and practical work-related...
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“But it started so well”, why year 7 is so hard.
An adult recently asked my 11-year-old son how is new secondary school was, my son’s answer was that it was stressful, he sighed when he said this. He doesn’t mean the content of the lessons; he means...
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New Year exercise? It needs to involve the following element to be an...
It has been believed for decades that the mature brain was incapable of growing new neurons; it was understood that as we reached adulthood, we began to lose neurons rather than gain them. However, it...
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Why removing the mobile phone may make the problem worse. 3 minute read
It is difficult to know what the right thing is to do; we are the first generation as parents to experience addictions to technology. We are the first generation to tackle the use of Snapchat, TickTock...
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Why some traumatised people feel near the tipping point during lockdown and...
I wanted to write this short piece for people to gain a greater understanding of what the challenges may be for some people who have experienced developmental trauma or a traumatic episode.Why would...
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A.S.M.R - an effective relaxation resource that can help anxious teenagers....
When A.S.M.R first became popular on the internet, the press choice to sexualise it with descriptions such as brain-gasm within sexual language. This resulted in parents thinking it was maybe risky and...
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I only want to advise about one thing during this pandemic…This one thing is...
I only want to advise about one thing during this pandemic…I have refrained from posting about routine or helping your teen with anxiety, staying calm or being active outdoors. There is too much of...
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To all the burnt-out mums, who’ve already done nearly 17 weeks at home. You...
“Can you drop me off at …”“I’m hungry, why have we not got any ham”“where are the trainer socks”“what’s wrong with the internet, Mum can you reset the box”I keep reading lots of news articles about...
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10 things to lighten the load for your teenager during this pandemic.
"Britain is sleepwalking into a mental health crisis as the government struggles to deal with the monumental effects of the Covid-19 pandemic. Health experts and charities have told the Observer the...
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Why do the arguments escalate – emotional language is part of the reason,...
There are three aspects that lead to us using emotive language and catastrophising with our teens…Worry, panic and anger.It is hard not to worry, worry is the ‘digital age’ parent default mode. Of...
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Ideas on Self-esteem feedback for your teenage boys
Things could be hurting over time for your teenage boy and you may never know. Anyone who has different sex children reports feeling at a loss in navigating the differences when it comes to teenage...
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How we feel about self-harm, effects how we respond.
One of the issues I work with frequently with teenagers is self-harm. Self-harm can feel complex and overwhelming to parents and school staff who see it as a destructive behaviour. It is extremely...
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Social media bullying, the effects are far reaching for everyone involved....
Social media bullying, the effects are far reaching for everyone involved. What you can do to support your teenagerOverwhelmed and panicked is the feeling both teenagers and their parents experience...
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